Bad Habbits? It’s easy to deal with

Apr 30, 2011 by Khursheed Alam

After writing a note for a friend aggression due to current Pakistani Systems, when I was writing some notes to him, I’ve an Idea to write about Bad Habits which are commonly in our youngster. So, here are the bad habits of our youngster but they unable to clue how deal with it.

First of all we need to know what bad habit is.

 A bad habit is a negative act that one repeats again and again. Habits rule our lives and if you are bound by bad habits, you have vital reason to be concerned. You must do all within your ability to address and correct such negative trends particularly if you desire progress in life. Someone said that habits determine our future. It’s true, now you can see your future on your own hand. The secret of your success lies in your daily routine. Something you do habitually is either blessing you or destroying you. Wouldn’t you rather be blessed? Youths are particularly prone to certain bad habits. I have try to show some following habitual of youngsters and off course teenagers who they used daily in their life, some very common bad habits and easy steps you can take to overcome them.

Cursing or Swearing
I observed as I was teenager and youngster too; now a day, many youngsters are in the habit of using curse words. Such foul words as f- -k and shit you are not only irritating to any decent ear, they expose you as crude and uncivilized. How about, when you are swearing to your parents not spend most of time with friends at the street?  Please control your tongue. Try using positive words such as: bless you, merciful Allah instead. Screaming the name Allah khair karay (یا اللہ خیرکرے  ) as a curse word is absolutely sacrilegious. So also, making a habit of saying, “I swear to Allah” is bad. Let your yes be yes and your no be no!

Stealing
Many youths are very guilty of this. Stealing simply means stealing in small quantities or committing petty thefts. Okay, so you say you are not a thief?  How about, when you are using mobile phones of your brother and sister without their permission? How about when you collect loose change from the grocery without informing them? What about sneaking into the kitchen to grab some chicken or a can of juice which you had been warned against taking? Each time you take something that isn’t yours without the owner’s consent, you are stealing. Save your face. Get rid of that bad habit before it leads to disgrace and dishonor you.

Exposure to pornographic materials
This is now very disguise and habitual act of our Pakistani youngsters, From porno messages, to porn web-sites, vulgar music and x-rated movies, every time you expose yourself to obscene materials, you are making yourself a candidate of sexual fantasies, masturbation, illegal sexual pleasure and ultimate distortion. The reason why many youths are obsessed on lust and sex is because they feed themselves with junk materials. What you read, listen to, see, watch and forwarded to others will eventually take control of you. That’s why in daily news we can read and watch the rape cases and gang rape cases with women, girls and under 10 years of old girls. Do yourself a favor and get rid of such dirty habits otherwise you will soon become a sex fanatic and pervert.

Impulsive spending
What do you do whenever you get a raise, a financial gift, your pocket money or your monthly salary? Youngsters often rush into fast foods and spend without planning. I am not saying you should not give yourself an occasional treat. However, when you make a habit of eating junk foods, your body becomes a dumping yard for sickness, undernourishment and obesity. Of course your pocket will also suffer for reckless spending.

Sleeping and wakeup without pray
Many youths are guilty of this (but also our parent’s responsibility to teach children about our sleeping and wakeup from the bed in Islamic manners). You wake up in the morning very late just woke up and rush into the bathroom.  If you want to have a great day, you must put wakeup early first taking Fajar Namaz to communicate with your Creator Allah.  In the pray, first by thanking Him for keeping you alive to see a new day. You should also ask Him to grant you favor and protection throughout the day. Also attempt to recite some Surrah before you jump into bed at night, such as, onetime ( درود پاک) Darood, one time Surah Faatiha, 3 times  (صورۃ اخلاص )Surah Ikhlas , 3 times(  صورۃ الفلق ) Surah Falaq, 3 times ( صورۃ الناس )Surah Naas and at the end one more time (درود پاک) Darood. Pray, no matter how tired or exhausted you feel. This is the surest way to keep the devil at bay.

Fun, Cool and Amusing

Other bad habits include: Tobacco smoking, gutka, pan, prag, greed, Run the motor bike without silencer, fun on bike,  throwing trash on the street or out of a moving vehicle or urinating on the road side, making promises you don’t intend to keep, hysterical anger, keeping hatred, borrowing money (especially so as to spend on nonsense), talking when food in your mouth, not brushing the mouth or bathing early enough on weekends or holidays, or even before going to sleep at night, etc. The only way to deal with a bad habit is first, recognize that it is bad. Secondly, hold self-discipline and tame yourself from being ruled by a bad habit. Be determined to break it and take the necessary steps by avoiding anything that could make you weak.

For example, if you are a sex maniac, pervert, you may need to change your circle of bad friends and hang around positive and decent folks. You also need to destroy any indecent material in your possession, stop browsing x-rated websites, don’t read or forwarded mobile dirty messages to your friends. You may have to swallow your pride and seek qualitative direction. Furthermore, reading informative manuals or self-help books relating to overcoming that weakness will also be useful. focus group discussion or help group relating to the subject at stake would be beneficial. Above all, pray to Allah for the grace to overcome every bad habit in your life. You shall overcome by the grace of Allah.. I’m sure this will really help you to move your life towards success and cherish character of life, it’ll also make difference to our society and it’ll be change if everyone trying to reduce or removing their bad habits individually it’ll creates a better society which is normally you can discover by yourself the history of Muhammad SWAW and their companions.

This is what I have changed in my life I finally I found myself a better character and successful businessman, in this country Pakistan. Where every youngster claiming that what Pakistan give us, this is now you can imagine if you change your bad habits you can earn something which only remains in your dreams.

Please share this to your love ones (friends) take a first steps ignorant to success.

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THE MOST FUNCTIONAL ENGLISH WORD… Well, it’s “shit” …

Apr 12, 2011 by dotcrush

That’s right, most Useful Word In The English Language is SHIT!!!
You can smoke shit, buy shit, sell shit, lose shit, find shit, forget shit, And tell others to eat shit.
Some people know their shit, while others can’t tell the difference between shit and clay.
There are lucky shits, dumb shits, and crazy shits.
There is bull shit, horse shit, and chicken shit.
You can throw shit, sling shit, catch shit, shoot the shit,
Or duck when the shit hits the fan.
You can give a shit or serve shit on a stick..
You can find yourself in deep shit or be happier than a pig in shit.
Some days are colder than shit, some days are hotter than shit,
And some days are just plain shitty.
Some music sounds like shit, things can look like shit,
And there are times when you feel like shit.
You can have too much shit, not enough shit, the right shit,
The wrong shit or a lot of weird shit.
You can carry shit, have a mountain of shit, or
Find yourself up shit creek without a paddle.
Sometimes everything you touch turns to shit and
Other times you fall in a bucket of shit and come out smelling like a rose.
When you stop to consider all the facts,
it’s the basic building block of the English language.

And remember, once you know your shit, you don’t need to know anything else!!
You could pass this along, if you give a shit; or not do so if you don’t give a shit!
Someone is also trying to find out The internet is shit.

He says; It is vitally important that we all realize this and move on. People (eg Bloggers) go on and on about how wonderful it is. About how much information is out there in cyberspace. About the way that everything is within reach in just a few clicks of their mice.

Well, Shit, it’s time for me to go.
Just wanted you to know that I do give a shit and hope you had a nice day,
Without a bunch of shit.

But, if happened to catch a load of shit from some shit-head,………..
Well, Shit Happens!!!


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Fears and dangers that the real Pakistanis are living with every day (true)

Apr 28, 2011 by Khursheed Alam

The reason to write this note, many Pakistani folks (mainly youngster and professionals) always trying to lay down Pakistan and Pakistani Spirit. But they unfortunately forgot that they are also living in this country. If you say so, than why not leave this country? Why you are trying to show your frustrations with writing and complaining against Pakistan. Have you ever been think once that, what you gave to Pakistan? I’m sure you were / are never ever try to give your strength and skills for participation to build a better Pakistan. And I’m sure your types of peoples never change.

One thing almost every one heard that,  “That kind of person always making a hole in the pot which they eat in it ” ( in Urdu: [ جس تھالی میں کھاتے ہیں اسی میں چھید کرتے ہیں ] ).

First of all you’ve to clear your mind, before blaming or complaining your frustration against country which may occurs from the other person. You’ve the right to speak up for those peoples and point out, but do not blame to this country.

A simple quote of some Pakistani peoples they are trying to show him/her a better Pakistani, you’ve to read his simple quote and you can understand how our youth turn their mouth and mind towards against Pakistani hood.

” I don’t understand how people in Pakistan could act so blind and heartlessly. Police acts blind and the responsible personalities act if everything is fine. How could they be like this! Pakistan is really not a place for humans anymore, you have to be worst than animals to be here. “

You can imagine where our Pakistani youth are going… How much they frustrated with the System. Everywhere, the whole system of Pakistan collapse, but the thing is still remains…

He also says:

“  Bunch of guys started to sit at door of someone’s house. Girls of that family work in office so the father of girls asked the guys to not to sit there for respect. You know the answer was? Gun pointed to the father and said things that shareef parents cannot imagine to hear. This is our youth.  “

Hmmm,  what all youngster doing this? Of Course not, they are just few. But we are always trying to see few things. I’m agree about the above saying, but not totally agree that this is our youth because these are the youth who unable to find their path where they use their ability; most of the youngsters in Pakistan, unable to focus their aim of life, why? Have any one try to think of it? No; these are the mistakes of our parents who unable to grow their children for good manners, they are not even try to find out what’s going on with our children.

The basic and beginning learn of life and character for a human is the mother’s ovum, where a life just started his growth. At that time Allah [ سبحان و تعلٰی ] says” protect your thoughts from the Satan ( شیتان  ) and don’t try to do any bad things, such as involving in the movies, songs, lies, evilness act ( discuss about a person who is not presence on this discussion) and etc. If a mother doing all these things, which will directly impose to the brain of child and his/her characteristics. 

Many of Pakistani women; doing this thing that’s why we’ve that kind of youth. If our Pakistani mother change their schedules and involve in all good things such as prayer, Recite the Holy Qur’an ( قرآن ) and avoiding to watch movies, dramas and songs. I’m sure the child becomes a good person for their family and society.

The second is our Teacher, but unfortunately these criteria, are also fail due to failure peoples choosing Teaching Profession because they are unable to find any other jobs or profession.

Why all this? What happens to society? If anyone have their opinion about the society, culture and youth problem, must have in the mind that create the point of answer, a solutions, a hope instead of blaming to country, youth or others. This is the right way to change the system and society flaws but before all the things, you’ve to change yourself. Find out your mistakes, if you have a way to change into Right than do. Try to focus your Aim (if you have), instead of blaming and complains to others, if it doesn’t then find your aim of life if doesn’t found than make it and do hard work, keep your mind with positive thinking. Because new research discover, if a person have Positive Thinks it creates positive rays, and also mind will receive positive rays back, if a person have negative thinking the process is the same.

I’ve done millions and trillions mistakes, which are mainly is my characteristics. Yes! it’s true, if I met a person it doesn’t matter he is the friend of friend but I always trust them, later if we doing something together e.g. Work, Projects or Business, I’m totally faith on them you can say totally blind faith and that’s my bad habitual (which is now over from the sake of All Mighty Allah) of blind faith encouraging them to do evil things. Also the aggression, whenever I found out any mistakes and lies, I completely exhausted the results is shouting but after effects are silence which is very dangerous, and it creates huge distance which is destroy the wellness and beauty of friendship life.

Now a day, I’m trying to do right thing and clear and resolve my mistakes, if I hurt a person, I personally meet him and apologize for those mistakes and making right.  One of my past year mistake, that I’ve been using my name on a project which is not mine, it created by one of my friend but I did use my name because the company contacted me and they needs to change something on it, I did it, and also change the designer name. At that time I felt that I’m right to change the designer name, because now the creation is require to some changes, as you can see many of invention, are now naming with labeling with current producers, that’s the reason I’ve done it… But after receiving same aggression and frustrated message from him I’ve to decide not to hurt anyone anymore again, so I’ve changed it.

So, if a person like me change the attitude for a broader aspects why not you or others, just change it. You’ll feel this country is a better place for living instead of Pakistan is really not a place for humans anymore, you have to be worst than animals to be here.

Everyone try stand to make a better place for living in Pakistan, just think of it how, explore yourself, before advice someone change yourself first, if you try to advice someone not lie with anyone, first try to remove your lies it doesn’t matter a small lies never hurt, but remain this things is a lie and lie is a root of all sin. So! you’ve to change yourself, don’t lie to yourself, just find out your ability and use it, don’t waste your time to think, or making some larger ambitious, Act now and do the right thing, I’m sure soon or later you’ll receive your positivity rays and that rays will change your current character. Before complaining or harsh with anyone, think thrice about the results, sure you’ll calm and think positively.

I like a commercial which are produce by the Telenor Mobile Company in Pakistan, they made it several commercial these days, this one is I like the most.

The above video is a series of Khamoshi Ka Boycott a complete and meaning full message give us by the Telenor, where we can now able to find where and what is wrong with our society… That’s why I started this blogs to show and give a message to our youth to change your character which is normally characterless life, you’ve to build your character and then Khamoshi Ka Boycott’s messages will be the best tool to change the society.

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lies, deception or Topian ( ٹوپیاں – جھوٹ ۔ دھوکے بازی )

Apr 12, 2011 by Khursheed Alam

lies, deception or Topian ( ٹوپیاں – جھوٹ ۔ دھوکے بازی )

آج کل یہ اس قدر عام ہے کہ جیسے یہ وقت کی بہت اہم ضرورت ہو اور اس میں کوئی برائی بھی نہیں سمجھی جاتی شائد یہ ہی وقت ہے جس کا ذکر کتابوں اور بزرگوں کی

نصیحتوں میں ملا کرتا ہے۔

آج کی نئی نسل کو کیا کہئیے زباں پر صرف یہ ٹوپیاں ہی نہیں بلکہ گالیاں تک عام ہے۔

اگر کوئی اچھی بات بھی کہنا ہو تو گالیوں سے شروعات ہوتی ہے ۔ اس بات کو دوسرا سمجھنے کے بجائے بلکہ اس بات پر تکرار شروع ہو جاتی ہے گالم گلوچ نہیں۔

 یہ وہ مصینت ہے جسے ہر کوئی روزانہ اپنی زندگی میں محسوس بھی کرتا ہے اور واسطہ بھی پڑتا ہے بلکل اسی طرح کا

واقعہ میری زندگی میں بھی رونما ہوا۔ جہان تک حتم المکان کوشش ہوتی ہے میری کے میں سب کے لئے کچھ اچھا پیغام دوں کسی کی زندگی کو بہتر اور اچھی کرنے کے لئے اپنے تجربے کی بنیاد پر نصیحت کر سکوں مگر اپنی ہی برائی گالم گلوچ کے نزدیک نا صرف اپنی بات کا وزن کھو دیتا ہوں بلکہ اصل بات ہی اور مقصد فوت ہو جاتا ہے۔ ایسا کیونکر ہے؟ ہم ایک

طرف تو اچھائی کا پرچار کرتے ہیں اور دوسری طرف خود وہی برائی میں جکڑے ہوتے ہیں ۔

آج پھر وہی دورہ پڑا ، ایک جھوٹ کو جھوٹ منوانے کیلئیے بات کہاں سے کہاں پہنچ گئی، کے جو عادتاََ گالی دی گئی جو نا

کسی کو دی گئی اور نا ایسا کچھ زہن کے کسی گوشے میں تھا کے اس پر یا اس کے خاندان کو لا مہالہ اس گندی حرکت میں شامل کیا مگر جو بات اچھائی کیلئے بتائی جا رہی تھی وہ فوت ہو  گئی اور بات بڑہتی چلی گئی۔ جس مقصد کیلئیے بات شروع کی گئی کے جھوٹ نہیں بولنا چاہئے تھا یہ برائی ہے اور ناسور ہے ہمارے معاشرے کیلیئے مگر اس کا اختتام ایسا ہوگا یہ اندازہ نہیں تھا۔ مگر کوئی میری بات کو نا سمجھ سکے اور اسکی گہرائی کو نا پہنچ سکے مگر اس بات کا مجھے ضرور اندازہ ہو گیاکہ غلطی جھوٹ بولنا نہیں غلطی گالیاں دینا ہے جو کے ہماری زبان پر بلکل اسی طرح رائج ہے جیسے جھوٹ بولنا

اور اسے معمولی ٹوپی کہکر اپنے دل کو تسلیّ دیتے ہیں اور احمقوں کی جنت میں رہتے ہیں۔

آج کسی کو اچھی بات یا عادت سکھاتے ہوئے خود کی ایک بہت بڑی برائی سامنے آگئی۔ میں ابھی تک اسی سکتے میں ہوں

کے اپنی برائی کی عادتوں کو ختم سمجھ رہا تھا آج مجھے اندازہ ہو گیا کے آخر دوسرے جب برائی کرتے ہیں تو وہ ہمیں باقائدہ نظر بھی آتا ہے اور اسے دوسروں کی کمزوری سمجھ کر اسےشرمندہ بھی کرتے ہیں۔ یہی وہ کیفیت ہے جسکی وجہ سے آج ہمارا معاشرہ  نا صرف بےراہ روی کا شکار ہیں بلکہ کوئی اسے چھوڑنا بھی گریز نہیں کرتا۔ میں اپنی سب سے بڑی کمزوری اور برائی سے واقف ہوگیا اور اللہ سے اسکی معافی مانگ لی اور امید اس باری تعالیٰ سے یہی ہے کے وہ ہر ایک کو بخشنے والا اور راہ نجات دکھانے والا ہے۔

لیکن مسلہْ ابھی تک وہیں ہے کیا جھوٹ کو کوئی اور نام دیکر ہم اس اتنی بڑی برائی سے جو تمام برائیوں کی جڑ ہے، ہم

حقیقت سے منھ موڑ سکتے ہیں کتئ ممکن نہیں ۔ ہم اپنی جب تک چھوٹی چھوٹی عادتوں کو برائی نا سمجھتے ہوئے اسے کرنے کے سو بہانے تلاش کریں گے تو نا ہی ہمارے کردار میں کوئی تبدیلی آئے گی اور نا ہی ہمارا معاشرہ پھر سے اسی طرح چمک دمک ایک اجالے کی مانند ہوگی۔

یہ جھوٹ بلکہ عرف عام میں ٹوپی [ شغل میلہ ] نا سرف زہنی گراوٹ کا باعث بنتی ہے بلکہ یہی اکدام ایک دن اسے بہت بڑے 

مشکل میں لا کھڑا کرسکتی ہے ایک بار معاشرے میں جھوٹا، ٹوپی باز یا دھوکے باز مشہور ہوجائے تو سولی پر بھی کھڑے ہونے کے باوجود کوئی بھی اسکی بات کو سچ سمجھنے سے قاصر رہے گا۔

آئیے عہد کریں نا صرف دوسروں کو برائی سے روکنے کا سدباب کریں بلکہ پہلے اپنی گریبان کو ایک بار ضرور جھانک لیں۔ اور پہلے اپنی اصلاح کریں بعد میں دوسروں کی۔ کہیں ایسا نا ہو جو آج میرے ساتھ ہوا۔ ایک بہتر انسان ہونے کے لیئے پہلے اپنے آپ کو سدھاریں پھر کسی اور کی طرف توجہ دیں۔

اللہ ہم سب کی مغفرت فرمائے اور ہمیں اچھی اور بری بات سمجھنے کا وہ ذہن عطا کرے جس سے اپنی خود کی شخصیت کو ایک اچھے کردار میں ڈھال سکے۔ بانسبت کسی اور کو ڈائریکٹ سمجھانے کے، وہ خود آپکی اچھائی کو دیکھتے ہوئے اسے

اپنانے کی کوشش کرےگا۔

آمین

خورشید عالمکراچی
پاکستان زندہ آباد

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